Aloha and Mele Kalikimaka (Merry Christmas in Hawaiian),

Like many of you -I have had a busy November. I have also had a wonderful time this month connecting with my friends and family. I met so many like-minded people at Larry Crane’s release technique course, Abundance 101 which was simply amazing. If you missed the course this time- save your $$ – rumor has it they will be teaching another Abundance Course in June 2010. I have been using the release techniques for hours every day and my life is unfolding just beautifully with an abundance of synchronicity and joy.

We had a great turn out for the Joy Love Club meeting on Nov 3rd. I hope to have another one in January.

❥Joyful Reminders

❥ Here is my interview on Janice Marie’s Morning Blog Radio show for those of you that missed the live airing of the show. Click on the link and go to “Episodes on Demand” and find mine on November 9. Thank you Janice Marie for that opportunity.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Janice-Marie-Wilson/2009/11/09/BEAT-THE-MONDAY-MORNING-BLUES-WITH-JANICE-MARIE-WILSON

♥♥♥ It is the Season to Connect for Joy ♥♥♥

Since I was little- I was told that the Christmas Season was the time for JOY! When I was a child and I felt the joy of my family gathered around our Christmas tree Christmas morning opening presents. Yes, the presents gave me joy, however, that joy seemed to be fleeting after a few hours. However, that time I spent at Christmas time connecting joyously with my family I have never forgotten. Now that I have grown children of my own and have a few grand kids- I really love the holidays because family gets together and we get to share the gift of connecting and we have the opportunity to experience the JOY that can go along with being together.

If many of you this year feel you must simplify Christmas- please do not think you are going to have a bleak Christmas. Turn it around – spend time together- go out and load up the family car take your family to see all the Christmas lights in your neighborhood. Buy some construction paper, string, glue, and glitter as a family sit around one evening and make special Christmas ornaments or cards. Bake cookies and decorate them. What memories do you have about Christmases past – did the wrapped gifts give you lasting joy or was it connecting and “being” with your family that gave you your joy? When we are joyfully connecting, we all are feeling loved and are giving love. Isn’t love the best gift to give and receive?

We simplified Christmas last year and it worked so well, we are doing it again this year. We did so many heart-felt things together- we built a ginger bread house, made homemade cookies and goodies, we all ate dinners together and played games after dinner. We also did a family picture with all the extended family. My daughter shared with me – that it was the first Christmas she could remember that was so stress-free. I have to agree with her – less stress and more love and joy. A wise friend of mind once said – “We make our memories.” I would like to add to that – “We also make our joy.” Be “the heart-felt present” this year-be present-connect with your friends and family this holiday and give the gift that keeps on giving- JOY! Just Only You! -which is always enough and will be joyfully accepted and remembered.

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✦✦✦ December’s Joyful Tip

I am only giving you one “Joyful Tip” this month because you can use it at home and at work. When you feel stressed this holiday season – remember my holiday mantra and repeat it over and over again until you believe it and feel better. “I am too Blessed to be Stressed.” “I am too Blessed to be Stressed.” Count your blessing and be in gratitude- get real with your life- be enough- we always have a lot of blessings in our lives- let the stress go and uncover the Joy of the holidays.

❥ Remember “Love for Peace in your Life and in our World!”

Happy Holidays!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

❥❥❥ From the Desk of Joyologist – Vicki Kallman

Aloha Readers,

Here it is November already. I had a very busy October with my Joy-Up Your Life Workshops. I had a wonderful time presenting them. I hope my participants received as much joy as I did from the workshops. In January or February, I will be presenting a half-day Joy-Up Your Life workshop. Next time it will be on a Saturday with the hopes that more people will be able to make it.

❥Joyful Reminders

❥ Larry Crane’s new book, “Love Yourself and Let the Other Person Have it Your Way”,
is a wonderful gift idea. You can find it on Amazon.

❥ Tune in and listen to my interview on releasing those “non-loving” feelings and uncovering the joy on the “BEAT THE MONDAY MORNING BLUES WITH JANICE MARIE WILSON” blog radio show next Monday, November 9th at 9AM PST. Just go online to the link below. Feel free to call in. 1-646-652-4558. If you miss the live show, just go to the link and click “On Demand Episodes”. You will find the interview there.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Janice-Marie-Wilson/2009/11/09/BEAT-THE-MONDAY-MORNING-BLUES-WITH-JANICE-MARIE-WILSON

❥ Also on Nov. 13, 14, and 15 -(Friday night- all day Saturday and Sunday) there will be an “Abundance 101 Course” right here in Las Vegas. This is the course that helped me let go of my unloving feelings and embrace who I am with clarity and peace. It has supported me in creating a lot of momentum in my life. Why am I doing this- releasing is a simply way to experience greater joy and success in everyone’s life. Go to the website and put in the code vegas09 for $100 off the price.

Check out www.releasetechnique.com – Do it for you!

♥♥♥ Happiness is Just a Decision Away ♥♥♥

What would you say if I told you that – To be happy is a decision you can make right now and be happy no matter what? Would your first response be- Could it really be that simple? My answer is yes -it can be that simple. Maybe not so easy but simple.

We make hundreds of decisions all day- when to get up in the morning- what to eat- what route to take to work- when to mail a bill, to name a few. When we are making these decisions, we are choosing to do these items and for the most part no one is making those decisions for us. Right? So why can’t we get up in the morning and say to ourselves- I am deciding to be happy today no matter what. Remember in my July newsletter – I mentioned setting your intention to love yourself and others every day. I had you put your loving intention on the top of your to-do list so now just add one more item to your to-do list “be happy today” along side that intention. Remember no one or thing can make you happy- it is up to you. It will be your decision to be happy and smile! With that in mind let me share an experience I had last month.

Last month in Toastmasters, I competed in a Division level Speech contest representing my area. In the past when I have competed, I usually experienced a roller coaster ride of emotions before, during, and after. I was normally wiped out after I competed. This time I made the decision to be happy before, during, and after the contest. And I let go of any non-loving emotions that were to the contrary. When the day arrived, I even added “loving the experience” to my being happy. Wow, I was able to maintain that feeling – no roller coaster ride this time and I was full of energy after the contest. I did not wait for the results of the competition to be happy. I came in third place and easily embraced my third place win. I was not upset I did not come in first place- however, I was happy for myself and everyone that had competed. I walked away from the contest feeling great. My happiness did not depend on my winning. What a freeing experience! In the past, I have not been that happy about competing because of that emotional roller coaster ride- and would tell myself never again. Now -I am telling myself- sure why not!

With holidays just around the corner- make the decision today to be happy every day through out the holiday season. You know it is the season of JOY- give yourself the choice to enjoy it!
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***November’s Joyful Tip

During the days leading up to Thanksgiving or Christmas, we can become overwhelmed with all that we feel that needs to be done. Make a list of the things that normally overwhelm you this time of year. Now see if you can do things a little different. For instance- If you are the one that always has the big dinner at your home, then ask for help with preparing the food. Make it a potluck or have someone else cook it and bring it over. Or even choose to go out to dinner and then return back to your home for dessert- this way you can still have that home-cooked holiday feeling and family time. Ask for help and suggestions from the other people involved. This will give them a chance to be part of the big day, too – other then just setting down to the meal you have prepared. Being open to do things differently and asking for support might be the two biggest things you can do for yourself, that is, after you have decided to be happy everyday throughout the holiday season. Try it, you might just-Enjoy It!

***November’s Joyful Tip for the Work Place

The season of giving is nearly upon us. Everyone at your workplace is probably feeling the pressure of the economy right now. You might be experiencing some down sizing or lay offs. Fear might be the only emotion you and your co-workers are experiencing at work right now. Along with the other Joyful Tips I have shared with you in my earlier newsletters, step into courageousness and be the beacon of happiness at your job. First decide to be happy, then at the bottom of every email you send out to your co-workers add a “happy” quote. Change the quote everyday. See if you notice more smiles on your co-workers faces. You can start with this one.

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”
Chinese Proverb

Here is a website I discovered with many ideal “happy” quotes- don’t be afraid to create a few of your own. www.inspirational-quotes-and-quotations.com/happy-life-quotes.html

❥ Remember “Love for Peace in your life and in our world!”

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

www.vickikallman.com

❥❥❥ From the Desk of Joyologist – Vicki Kallman

Aloha Readers,

I would like to again thank all of you who have shared your stories with me of using the Joyful Tips from these newsletters. It warms my heart to hear that the Tips are helping many of you to have more happiness and joy.

❥Joyful Reminders

❥ The time is almost here. My “Joy–Up Your Life” Workshops will be every Wednesday night in October. October 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th from 7 to 8:30 PM at the Place for Miracles Church at 2160 West Charleston Suite C, Las Vegas, NV 89102 (The same parking lot as the Omelet House). No need to attend all of the workshops to get a great benefit. As the 1965, Jackie DeShannon song proclaims- “What the world needs now is Love Sweet Love!” So everyone can benefit from these workshops. Come and bring a friend or two! Cost -$10 a workshop. Please RSVP to me by email– vicki@vickikallman.com – seating is limited.

❥ Also on Nov. 13, 14, and 15 -( Friday night- all day Saturday and Sunday) there will be an “Abundance 101 Course” right here in Las Vegas. This is the course that helped me to let go of my unloving feelings and embrace who I am with clarity and peace. It has supported me in creating a lot of momentum in my life. I have negotiated a special low group price for anyone who signs up with me and pays for the class by October 30. Please call or contact me by email for the details- -the more people that sign up through me, the lower the price for all. Why am I doing this- releasing is a simply way to experience greater joy and success in everyone’s life.

Check out www.releasingtechnique.com – then contact me. Do it for you!

♥♥♥ Love is Listening with Your Heart ♥♥♥

Last month I talked about choosing the attitude of gratitude, acceptance, and understanding to help you to have more love in your life. This month I would like to add one more element to this mix bag of goodies. Listening with your Heart. Yes, listening with your heart is a key element in giving and receiving love and feeling that we are lovable. It has been said, God gave us two ears and one mouth and one heart for a reason. I believe he gave us these so we can love fully! When we are using our mouths, we can send out love to others by speaking loving words. God also gave us two ears which acts as the receivers of those loving words. Our ears are one of the ways we receive love- transmit that loving information to our hearts which are our feelings and love centers. In turn, at that point, we remember the truth of who we are- whole perfect and complete and lovable!

Listening with our hearts allows the giver and receiver to feel the love. I know of all of you have experienced that love exchange at least one time in your life. When we are listening with our hearts – there is no need for judgement or trying to fix or control anyone. Listening with your heart will support your ability to accept and understand where the other person is coming from. When you do that, they will feel the love and you will be at peace giving it. Let the circle of love flow! Next time a friend or family member comes up to you to share something important with you- be quiet- open up your heart and just listen and see what happens. I am sure you both will simply love it!

***October’s Joyful Tip

Play the *”Wouldn’t it be wonderful if….. Game” with your friends and your family. This game will support everyone in opening up their hearts to listen to what is possible in their own lives. It also puts all that negative mind clatter on the shelf for a while.
Here is how you play- turn off the TV- computer or anything that is distracting. Playing this game after a meal is a fun, bonding event. You will be surprised on what is shared. When our hearts are open, our hearts’ desires will come to the surface. Listening to everyone’s respective shares will help activate your own truth and desires. Joy- Joy- Joy!
Rules of play-
—Everyone takes a turn sharing their “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…. ( something you would like to have happen to you or a love one- keep it positive) i.e. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…..I was able to have a new red Mustang convertible or a vacation in Hawaii.
—No one is allowed to comment negatively on the other person’s share.
—Play it as long as you wish- The more often you play the easier it will be to share what you would like to have or do or be.

***October’s Joyful Tip for the Work Place

Play another version of the “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…” Game on the way to work or when you first get to work. This game will help you set your intentions for the day. Here are the two ways you can play it. First way- on your way to work- say out loud, for example -Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…..traffic just flowed quickly to work today and I got to work 5 minutes early so I could sit and have a peaceful cup of coffee before I get started. Continue until you went over all the things you would like to happen for you that day. Another way is to get to work a few minutes early and write on the top of a piece of paper- Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…Then make a list of things you would like to happen that day. Like Wouldn’t it be wonderful if… my meeting with my first client ended in a sale. Continue until you have covered your complete to-do list. Take that extra few minutes to set your high vibrating intentions for the day by playing that game- let me know how it goes?

❥ Remember “Love for Peace” in your life and in our world!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

www.vickikallman.com

Vicki is a “Joyologist” that loves to speak on here favorite subjects – JOY and LOVE. Her life’s passion is to guide one to greater JOY and SUCCESS. And she also does this with her “Joy” coaching and workshops. Want to learn more-Contact Vicki at Vicki@vickikallman.com

* The idea for this game comes from the book, Ask and it is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks.

From the Desk of Joyologist – Vicki Kallman

Aloha Readers,

I have heard back from many of my readers and they are saying they are using the Joyful Tips of the month and are experiencing more joy and love in their lives. That warms my heart. Even my husband has been reading my joyful tips. Unexpectedly, one morning last week he brought me a lovely cup of coffee while I was getting ready for the day! HA! And you know, it really did set a loving tone for the rest of my day. Remember– Love is the Answer!

Joyful Reminder — my “Joy–Up Your Life” Workshops will be every Wednesday night in October. October 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th from 7 to 8:30 PM at the Place for Miracles Church at 2160 West Charleston Suite C, Las Vegas, NV 89102 (The same parking lot as the Omelet House) No need to attend all of the workshops to get a great benefit. As the 1965, Jackie DeShannon song proclaims- “What the world needs now is Love Sweet Love!” So everyone can benefit from these workshops. Come and bring a friend or two! Cost -$10 a workshop. Please RSVP to me by email– vicki@vickikallman.com – seating is limited.

Love is an Attitude of Gratitude, Acceptance, and Understanding.

Love is also an attitude of gratitude, acceptance, and understanding. Choosing to have these attitudes will guarantee you more love and joy throughout your day. All of these attitudes come from our Beingness– who we really are- Love. These 3 attitudes feed our soul and spirit. When our souls are fed by these loving attitudes, we are taking those around us and ourselves closer to love.

Think about it for a moment. When you are in gratitude for someone or something- how do you feel? How do you feel when you stop trying to change something or someone and you just accept it all? Now, how do you feel when you feel that someone understands what you are saying and he or she tells you so? Or you understand someone else’s side of an issue without any need for judgment? When I am choosing these 3 loving attitudes – I get filled up with joy and peace and brings me closer to love. Thus my life becomes so easy and it just flows.

When we are in the attitude that you are wrong and I am right- where does that take us? When we want to change our loved ones and want to control their every choice, what place does that take that person and us? Now what if we refuse to understand the other side of an argument. Where does that take us? Those attitudes take us away from love and who we really are. That is why one does not fill up with love and peace with those attitudes. Those attitudes are run by our egos. The ego always takes us further away from lasting love and joy. We might get a fleeting feeling of what we think is love and joy- but it cannot last. Don’t take my word for it. Think back to a situation when you were in one of the “got to be right” attitudes- it really became a hollow victory- didn’t it? This not a judgment exercise- this is just an awareness exercise. If we become aware of the unproductive value of these ego attitudes, then we can change them.

****September Joyful Tips

This month give the gift of love through the attitudes of gratitude, acceptance, and understanding. Do this by first choosing the attitude of gratitude for everything in your day. Be grateful! Secondly, choose to accept people and situations instead of trying to change them. It takes less effort to accept then to change. Someone once said to me, “Let go of trying to change someone, so they can do what you want them to do.” Lastly, be more understanding- drop your judgment and listen more often instead of talking. Really hear what the other person is saying. It takes less energy to listen than to talk. Let go your ego attitudes and embrace the loving attitudes and watch your life have more meaning and peace.

****September’s Joyful Tips for the Work Place
At work, when you make your to-do list, arrange the items to be accomplished in a less resistant order. That is put them in an order that creates a more joyful flow to your workday. Have the first item on your list be something you like to do or want to do. Like, for instance, call your favorite client and see if they need anything. For the second item on your list, put down an item that you have a little resistance on- for example- checking in with a disagreeable co-worker who is working with you on a project. Then for item 3, go back to doing something you like to do or have no resistance on completing. Item 4 again will be something you resist doing. By alternating agreeable and easier tasks with disagreeable and more resistant tasks throughout your workday will give you more energy and allow you to experience more peace and joy at work.

Remember “Love for Peace” in your life and in our world!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki
www.vickikallman.com
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Vicki is a “Joyologist” that loves to speak on here favorite subjects – JOY and LOVE. Her life’s passion is to guide one to greater JOY and SUCCESS. And she also does this with her “Joy” coaching and workshops. Want to learn more-Contact Vicki at Vicki@vickikallman.com

If you want to learn more about emotional releasing go to www.releasetechnique.com . The next live seminar in Las Vegas will be in November. Contact me if you are interested in attending.