Joyful Possibilities Newsletter March 2010
From the Desk Of Joyologist, Vicki Kallman
Aloha,
Happy Spring! This is my 8th Joyful Possibilities Newsletter and I have enjoyed writing everyone of them. My hope is that they have helped you to see and feel that it is possible to have joy in your life even though it looks like things around you is falling apart. The purpose of these newsletters are to give tips and awareness about joy and love. Thank you all for allowing me to be apart of your growing experience.
~~My friend, Alex Gwozda, that has written a blog on Love that is so powerful that I wanted to share it with you. Here is the link- Enjoy!
http://gwozda.com/2010/02/why-love-is-practical-crucial-and-appropriate-pt-1-what-is-love/
March Joyful Reminders
~I have a few Intuitive Personal Coaching openings in April. If you need a boost to reach those intentions you have made for yourself this year, feel free to contact me. vicki@vickikallman.com
~Save this Date~ Saturday, April 17th- I will be presenting a full day workshop called, “Intuition, The Bridge to your Desires” along with three good friends, Janice Marie Wilson, Erin Pavlina, and Cheri Hickman. Please go to this link to read more about this amazing workshop and register for it. http://www.erinpavlina.com/intuition-workshop.htm
~The next Release Technique Workshop will be June 4, 5, and 6. Check out www.releasetechnique.com for further information.
Loving vs Judging
What the world needs now is Love, Sweet Love or What the world needs now is Judging sweet Judging! Or on your death bed will you be saying- “I wish I had loved more or judged more?” Think for a moment, what have you been doing more of this past 24 hours and what have the results been? Have you been calm, peaceful, and in the flow? Or have you been agitated, impatient, and stuck? Like I have said all along-every decision we make either takes you to love or away from love. What direction have you been going?
In Byron Katie’s Book, Loving What Is, she works with a young man concerning his issues with his parents. He made this statement, “My parents should not judge me!”She replied, “What planet do you live on? This is what we do here- we judge!” Then she asked him, ” Are you judging them?” At that point the young man realized his part of the problem he had with his parents. She got him to see what a vicious, non-loving circle he was in with his judging and he needed to let that go of his judging and start loving.
So why do we judge? What do we get out of judging a person or situation? Are we trying to be right or protect ourselves and others with the judging? This is my belief about judging. We do it for many reasons. It is a protection mechanism that steps in when we want a reason to change or control something and we must to be right. Our non-loving ego is running this fiasco- most of the time when we are judging, we are not connecting to any one or anything . The act of judging separates the person and act. Your ego is whispering in your ear- “I am not like you- what you are doing is bad- I would never do what you did. I am better than you.” The need to control the situation and be right is overwhelming- even though this act takes you further and further from the truth. Like it has been said in many ways– “You must walk a mile in someone else’s shoes before you can judge or criticize them.” When I hear someone say, “I would never do that!” I usually respond with, “Are you sure? – even under dire circumstances?” If you believe the statements, “I am you and You are me.” Then you could do that unthinkable act or make those bad decision.
So now the question is – how do I stop judging? Love is the answer, of course! HA! Loving What Is is really a powerful concept. You know you have a choice to love or judge anything that comes into your life. When we say we have a problem, we are judging it as a problem. If we stopped judging the situation and started loving it – is there still a problem? You decide. Einstein said that “No problem can be solved from the same plane it was created.” Since Love is the highest energy vibration there is, what happens to that so-called problem? When you decide to love a so-called problem you become courageous and accepting and the energy on that situation switches right before your eyes. When you are in that loving place you can see that accepting the situation will put everyone in better place and no one has to be right. It just IS! You are now going toward love and all the great comfort that you feel when you have made that wise choice. Being right is judging. Choosing Happy is loving! Let go of the judging and embrace the loving!
Joyful Tip of the Month
If you want more joy and peace in your life, stop judging!It really is that
simple but not easy, since we all have been pushing that judging button
just about non-stop 24-7. Step back-Take your finger off that judging button.
Now envision a loving button right next to it. Realize you have choice here. Next time a so-called bad situation or person comes into you life- release the temptation to judge it or them, instead push the love button. Be patient. It will feel really weird when you first start using the Love button. Remember we also judge ourselves-so practice pushing the
Love button for yourself, too.
Practice this at home and at work. When you are in that beautiful loving place -you win as well as everyone around you. Try loving everything that is going in your life for just one hour in the beginning and see for yourself. Let the loving begin!~
In Love and In Joy,
Vicki Kallman
www.vickikallman.com
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