Attracting a Joyful Relationship
Have you wondered how some people are always joyful and it seems that everyone around them seems to be full of joy when they are around them? You might say they were just born that way or they are full of joy because they are lucky. I feel that they choose to be joyful- in return they attract joyful people.
Just like my last entry this has to do with the Universal Law of Attraction. “You attract to your life whatever you give your energy, focus, and attention to, whether wanted or unwanted.”
If you want to be surrounded by joyful people you must give your energy, focus, and attention to joy and positive relationships. I have known many women that say that they want to be in a loving, joyful relationship however alot of them had negatived unhealthy past relationships which were the opposite of what they said they wanted. However, when they tell me what they do not want and they put attention and focus on what they do not want. And you guessed it they attract that same kind of man to their lives. When this happens these gals can have 4 to 6 marriages under their belts and never get how to have a joyful and positive relationship. Of course they did not want that result but they attracted it again!! Do you know anyone like that- or can you see this vicious cycle being played out in your own life? By the way, this is not just something that happens to women. The law of attraction works with men, too.
Isn’t it time you used the law of attraction to attract what you want instead of what you do not want in a relationship? Isn’t it time to put your energy, focus, and attention to what you to want? Are you ready to learn how to do that?
Before I get to that- let me tell you a story about some one I know personally that used “the law” to get that joyful relationship she wanted. After high school she started dating. For about 6 years the type of men she attracted were professionals and looked good on the surface but once she got to know them they were very controlling and some had dark pasts. Finally she realized that if she was creating and attracting these unhappy relationships. She decided to take a break from dating for over a year to decide what she wanted out of a relationship. She told me one day- “I finally realized that I had the power to attract what I did not want in a relationship- I could have the power to attract what I wanted in a relationship.” She said it was like the light finally came on. She finally realized that she did not have to be the victim of what she did not want- instead she could be responsible for her own happiness. The choice was hers. She had spent that year feeling better about herself and getting clear on what she wanted in a relationship. She became more joyful and confident during that time. And about a year after she had that revelation- she met a man that gave her joy. Soon they will be celebrating their one year anniversary.
Like I mentioned in my last blog entry- our thoughts are energy and what we think about is what we bring about. So if you wish to have a joyful relationship you have to have joyful and positive thoughts about what you want in a relationship.
To help you in attracting what you want in a relationship first write down everything you do not want in a relationship or mate. Sometimes it is easier to write what you do not want then what you want- so start there. After you have done that. Then on another piece of paper write down what you want by referring to the first list of what you do not want and just writing the opposite of you don’t want. Like this - if you put on your don’t want list- some the is a workaholic- then on your want list- someone that balances work and home life. Are you getting the jest of it? After you make the list want in a relationship list then focus on it. Keep it in a place you can see and read it everyday- a screen saver works well. It really is that simple. Then you have to to be open to receive this relationship in your life. You have to feel good enough to receive it. Like doing things you like and filling yourself up with good feelings. Try saying “I am good enough to receive this wonderful relationship”. Learn to let go of those old thought processes- replace the negative ones with positive ones. When you change and feel on top of the world many more doors open for you. Keep those doors open so that wonderful relationship can walk in- and you must stay open yourself to know when he or she has walked in.
So no longer feel that you are destined to have unfulfilling relationships- you can change - first know what you want and second stay open to receive it by being more positive and loving of yourself and the world.
Remember attracting a joyful relationship starts with you and your thoughts and your wants! Be joyful and receive joyful.
Do you attract joyful relationships or crappy ones? Let me know what has worked for you and what has not?
In Joy,
Vicki