Vicki Kallman’s Blog

What you think about is what you bring about. Or you think to create. Your thoughts create your world. These are very empowering statements. You might say what do you mean by these statements? What I mean is this- When you think about joy you bring about joy. When you think joy - you create joy. And lastly, your joyful thoughts create your joyful world! And on the darkside of all of this is- When you think about worry you create things to worry about! When you think gloom and doom - you create gloom and doom.Your fearful thoughts create a fearful world.

Who wants to create worry,gloom, and doom, and fear in their lives? I don’t - I would definitely would rather create JOY.

I have just described to you the principles of the universal “Law of Attraction”. The definition of the Law of Attraction is “I attract to my life whatever I give my energy, focus, and attention to, whether wanted or unwanted.” Thoughts and feelings are energy. I believe we are an energetic body as well as a physical body. As our physical body responds favorably to good food, good water, exercise and proper sleep. Our energetic body responds favorably to good or positive thoughts and feelings. You know when you consume fatty fast food and you stop exercising and you are sleep deprived. You start to feel bad so you go to the doctors. There they will give you tests and the tests results will probably tell you that your cholesterol and blood pressure is sky high along with a few other negative conditions - this is how your body has responded to your neglect. Now if you think or speak negative thoughts or words about yourself or others- you will have created a negative energetic environment- that will produce the opposite of what you really wanted. Someone once said to me “if you put junk in -you get junk out.” That goes for your body as well as your thoughts. Are you getting the jest of what I am saying?

When I first started to understand this universal law of attraction, I decided to really test it. I was not completely convinced that my thoughts created my world. It was spring 1999. I took a once in a lifetime week long trip to London, England with my darling mother-in-law and my husband’s two older sisters. It was a “Girl’s Trip to London”. I was so excited to go. I wanted it to be a wonderful experience. Who knows when I would get back there?

To test out this law of attraction thing- I did this- I said to myself that I was going to love everything about London even the weather in March. Before the trip, I was in constant contact with my two well meaning sister-in-laws and mother-in-law so as to plan this wonderful trip. Instead of thinking how wonderful it all was going to be- my two sisters-in-law were full of worry about the weather, the food, the jet lag, and getting sick while they were there. They seemed to be looking for thinks to go wrong. After everyone of our telephone calls- I would say to myself exactly what I wanted to happen for me while I was there. First - I kept saying- The weather will not stop me from having a wonderful time. England was not famous for great food, however I repeated to myself what ever I eat it will delicious and I will love it. As for the jetlag, I affirmed that “I will have plenty of sleep while I am in London and feel refreshed every morning”. And finally I told myself that I would have radiant health throughout my trip.

The day of the trip I met the other three at Denver International Airport and we were on our way. Once we boarded the flight and got settled, my husband’s two sisters started talking up their fears again- thank God they were sitting in the seats in front of me - so I could tune them out. Half way through the flight they ask me if I needed a sleeping pill to catch a few zzz’s on the flight. They informed me that they had brought enough for us all to take throughout the stay in order to get enough sleep. I said maybe later but I was fine now. There was a few seats open around me so I laid down and got an hour or so of sleep. So far so good. My two sisters in law- still did not sleep a wink even with the sleeping pills hmmm….

Once we arrived at the hotel and got settled, we took a cab to a local pub to get a bite to eat. I was so excited to be in a real English pub. I ordered the soup of the day and salad. They ordered a couple of sandwiches. My soup was fantastic as well as my salad. They complained about the sandwich and only ate half of it. My mother-in-law in the mean time enjoyed what she ordered. No complaints there.

That night when it was time to go to bed. My sister-in-laws again took some sleeping pills and I declined. I hopped into bed and went fast to sleep and did not wake up until 6am-completely refreshed. You guessed it- the sisters did not have a good night sleep. My mother-in-law had a good night sleep. I started to think that my intelligent mother-in-law understood the law of attraction and had planned on having a fearless and joyful time, too.

As you can imagine throughout the week, my meals were amazing- theirs were not, I had no trouble sleeping- they continued to struggle with it. The weather did not stop me from enjoying my trip.

One night we went to the musical, “Chicago” at wonderful old theater. I had a blast watching this amazing live performance of that muscial. Afterwards, I was feeling so good. When we were walking to the “Tube”, the sisters started complaining about the muscial- I thought to myself- “had they seen the same show that I had.” Now my sister-in-laws are really wonderful gals- I really love them both. However, they really did not understand the “law of Attraction” A couple of times that week, I tried to help them shift their thoughts- so they could enjoy the trip as much as I did. I wasn’t too successful with that attempt. Their thoughts were ruining the trip for them and my thoughts were creating an amazing time for me.

Four days into the trip, the sister I was bunking with started to get sick with a dreadful bronchial and strepthroat type flu. She was in bed with a high fever. And the day after that, the other sister who was sharing a room with their mother came down with the same flu. They even had to do to a local doctor to get antibiotics.

My mother in law and myself never got that flu. When we arrived back to Denver, my two sister-in-laws were so sick, I had to drive them home.

To this day whenever we get together and talk about our trip to London- they shared what a lousy time they had- the food was trouble and the weather made them so sick. In fact, they were sick for two weeks after they got home. My mother-in-law and I would always look at each other and say we loved and would do it again.

You might feel that I have exaggerated this story- every bit of it is true. Since then everytime I intentionally use the law of attraction to have a wonderful time on a vacation- my vacation is perfect. If I let some fear in or doubt- I do not have a good time. From my own experiences, I have come to the conclusion that one can attract a joyful vacation just as easy as a lousy one.

I once heard this statement- “Fuzzy in gives you fuzzy out- clarity in gives you clarity out.” So lets get clear on what kind of vacation you want.

Here are a few tips to great a joyful vacaton this summer.

1. Do this exercise that comes out of Michael Losier’s book “The law of Attraction”.

On a sheet of paper draw a line down the paper to make two columns. Label the first column- what you do not want to happen on your vacation- the contrast(like my sisters in law’s fears) and then on the other side across from each fear what you want to experience instead of that fear your clarity( my thoughts for example) Once you have done that - tear away the contrasting portion and give your attention and focus to your ideal trip.

2. Keep saying yourself that your will have a joy-filled wonderful vacation no matter what.

3. Another affirmation type statement you might want to add is - I work hard all year and I deserve to have a wonderful time.

4. Visualize a joyful trip from the beginning to end and then allow it to happen. Set back and reap the benefits of your good thoughts.

I hope this helps you create an amazing vacation this summer and every vacation in the future.

Let me know if you try this out and the results!! Bon Voyage!!!

Just recently a friend of mine with little children asked me what I did to keep my children occupied on car trips. I let her in on a secret I use to use. Since we were in the military and seemed to live in cars, either traveling to our next home, visiting grandparents out of state, or family vacations, for survival I had to come up with a great distraction for my three kids. I do not know when I came up with this idea that worked 100% of the time with my three kids. I believe I came by this when my kids were in elementary school.

What I discovered was when ever we went somewhere my children always wanted us to buy them something- like at Disneyland, a Travel stop, just anywhere. So what I decided to do was have my children earn their spending money.

This is how I did it. I promised each one of my children $20 at the end of the trip to do as they pleased- but they had to earn by behaving. Every time I had to discipline the child or raise my voice they lost a quarter. I had them all agree with the rules and ask questions - so they were clear. Then the game began. Let me tell by the time they lost 50 cents there would be no more problems- peace and quiet. They became responsible for their own behavior. They found things to occupy their time that did not included fighting with each other. They learned patience. Once the money was gone it was gone. They did not get a chance to earn it back. That might sound harsh- but they learned that there were consequences to their actions. If they whined about losing a quarter- they lost another. Hence the arguing ceased! It was like magic.

I would do the same thing on the return trip. It was worth every penny I spent. Children always want you to buy them something- so this way they had some money of their own to buy what they want. I did notice that they took a great amount of time to buy just the right item or items. I feel they learned a lot about earning money and spending on those trips. A great life lesson.

If you have children that are too young to understand money, have every child start out with a bag of their favorite candy that they will get at the end of the trip. Put their name on the bag. Explain that they have to earn it. Every time they misbehave they have to take a piece of their candy out bag and put it in their parent’s candy bag. Again they will learn responsibility and consequences. If you do not want to use candy- find another item that will work.

Because of this secret, we got to experience the joy of taking a family trip. A lot less stress and a lot more joy.

Let me know if you use this secret this summer and let me know if you got to experience more joy traveling with your family this summer!

Happy Traveling,
Vicki