Vicki Kallman’s Blog

Recently, I have had conversations with my good friends about my new website and my concept of joy. They have listened to my ideas and thoughts on the subject. They have agreed that joy was a soulful emotion and they loved feeling joyful. They, also, shared with me that they needed joy in their lives. It was missing from their current situations. It was as though they had not thought of it before. Why hadn’t they noticed that joy was the last emotion they were feeling in a day? I proceeded to ask them, what was going on in their lives? They all answered– “Stress”. Of course, many of these conversations happened around the joyful holiday of Christmas. Yes, that joyful time of the year can be stressful. HA! Anyway, they really did not mention the holidays as the problem. Several of them discussed their jobs and lack of security. Many of them, also, mentioned relationship and money issues. And of course their health problems were up there on the list- like backaches, stomach problems, weight issues, hormonal imbalances and etc. I then asked them this question- did they know how to feel joyful? What do you think the answer was? If you guessed – no, you were wrong. The answer was yes. I asked them why they had chosen stress over joy? They did not have an answer. We humans are such strange creatures. We have chosen to be full of stress and worry instead of happiness and joy. Of course, now that I had brought to their attention what road they were going down, they now have the awareness to choose a different path. Choice is a joyful thing!
Why is stress a joy buster? I believe stress is a joy buster because we are caught up in doings and we are playing the “human doing game”-and we have forgotten that we are human beings. What I mean by that is- when we are in the doing place – we are in our heads totally disconnected from our hearts. From that head place – we can only feel low energy feelings like fear, lust, and anger. These emotions come from believing that we can “do” our way to happiness. It all happens outside our selves. We feel we are controlling our world. Of course, the results were not always what we wanted (stress)- so we continue to try to control and then the next thing you know we are in a worse place then we were in before we started. It becomes a vicious cycle of crazy energy and thoughts. We continue trying to think our way to a resolution. If we continually stay in our heads- we miss out on the solution! Have you ever tried and tried to find your car keys in your house? You looked for hours and still no keys. As soon as you say, forget it and you get the spare car keys, your mind quiets and then suddenly out of nowhere you remember were you left your keys. You were “doing” nothing when you remembered and found the keys. Did you feel like it was magic and weren’t you joyful? When we work in conjunction with our hearts we can become less stressed and more joyful. It takes shifting to that quiet, heart place to feel the joy. Just let go of wanting to think! Try it sometime. Just say – “Can I let go of wanting to think?” Let me know your results.
Did you know that for most people it is only 16 inches from your forehead to your heart? That is such a short distance to joy. I believe we all know how to find joy. We just have to be reminded that it is a short trip. So put joy on the top of your list and step out of your stress-filled mind – take that trip! Enjoy!

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