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From the Desk Of Joyologist, Vicki Kallman

Aloha,

Happy Spring! This is my 8th Joyful Possibilities Newsletter and I have enjoyed writing everyone of them. My hope is that they have helped you to see and feel that it is possible to have joy in your life even though it looks like things around you is falling apart. The purpose of these newsletters are to give tips and awareness about joy and love. Thank you all for allowing me to be apart of your growing experience.

~~My friend, Alex Gwozda, that has written a blog on Love that is so powerful that I wanted to share it with you. Here is the link- Enjoy!
http://gwozda.com/2010/02/why-love-is-practical-crucial-and-appropriate-pt-1-what-is-love/

March Joyful Reminders

~I have a few Intuitive Personal Coaching openings in April. If you need a boost to reach those intentions you have made for yourself this year, feel free to contact me. vicki@vickikallman.com

~Save this Date~ Saturday, April 17th- I will be presenting a full day workshop called, “Intuition, The Bridge to your Desires” along with three good friends, Janice Marie Wilson, Erin Pavlina, and Cheri Hickman. Please go to this link to read more about this amazing workshop and register for it. http://www.erinpavlina.com/intuition-workshop.htm

~The next Release Technique Workshop will be June 4, 5, and 6. Check out www.releasetechnique.com for further information.

Loving vs Judging

What the world needs now is Love, Sweet Love or What the world needs now is Judging sweet Judging! Or on your death bed will you be saying- “I wish I had loved more or judged more?” Think for a moment, what have you been doing more of this past 24 hours and what have the results been? Have you been calm, peaceful, and in the flow? Or have you been agitated, impatient, and stuck? Like I have said all along-every decision we make either takes you to love or away from love. What direction have you been going?

In Byron Katie’s Book, Loving What Is, she works with a young man concerning his issues with his parents. He made this statement, “My parents should not judge me!”She replied, “What planet do you live on? This is what we do here- we judge!” Then she asked him, ” Are you judging them?” At that point the young man realized his part of the problem he had with his parents. She got him to see what a vicious, non-loving circle he was in with his judging and he needed to let that go of his judging and start loving.

So why do we judge? What do we get out of judging a person or situation? Are we trying to be right or protect ourselves and others with the judging? This is my belief about judging. We do it for many reasons. It is a protection mechanism that steps in when we want a reason to change or control something and we must to be right. Our non-loving ego is running this fiasco- most of the time when we are judging, we are not connecting to any one or anything . The act of judging separates the person and act. Your ego is whispering in your ear- “I am not like you- what you are doing is bad- I would never do what you did. I am better than you.” The need to control the situation and be right is overwhelming- even though this act takes you further and further from the truth. Like it has been said in many ways– “You must walk a mile in someone else’s shoes before you can judge or criticize them.” When I hear someone say, “I would never do that!” I usually respond with, “Are you sure? - even under dire circumstances?” If you believe the statements, “I am you and You are me.” Then you could do that unthinkable act or make those bad decision.

So now the question is - how do I stop judging? Love is the answer, of course! HA! Loving What Is is really a powerful concept. You know you have a choice to love or judge anything that comes into your life. When we say we have a problem, we are judging it as a problem. If we stopped judging the situation and started loving it - is there still a problem? You decide. Einstein said that “No problem can be solved from the same plane it was created.” Since Love is the highest energy vibration there is, what happens to that so-called problem? When you decide to love a so-called problem you become courageous and accepting and the energy on that situation switches right before your eyes. When you are in that loving place you can see that accepting the situation will put everyone in better place and no one has to be right. It just IS! You are now going toward love and all the great comfort that you feel when you have made that wise choice. Being right is judging. Choosing Happy is loving! Let go of the judging and embrace the loving!

Joyful Tip of the Month

If you want more joy and peace in your life, stop judging!It really is that
simple but not easy, since we all have been pushing that judging button
just about non-stop 24-7. Step back-Take your finger off that judging button.

Now envision a loving button right next to it. Realize you have choice here. Next time a so-called bad situation or person comes into you life- release the temptation to judge it or them, instead push the love button. Be patient. It will feel really weird when you first start using the Love button. Remember we also judge ourselves-so practice pushing the
Love button for yourself, too.

Practice this at home and at work. When you are in that beautiful loving place -you win as well as everyone around you. Try loving everything that is going in your life for just one hour in the beginning and see for yourself. Let the loving begin!~

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki Kallman
www.vickikallman.com
Joyful Zen

❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥ From the Desk of Joyologist, Vicki Kallman
Aloha,

Thank you readers for the wonderful feedback from the last newsletter. Remember, set those intentions for your success and joy everyday. It was once said by Lewis Carroll, “If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there.” I have my January intentions posted on a huge post-it in my office and read it everyday. Let me tell you, I have had a remarkable January and I believe it is because I have embraced my intentions. I am just about ready to take them down, fine tune them, and put up February’s Intentions. I hope you will do the same.

❥ Joyful Reminders

~~If you missed hearing my live interview on the Power of Loving Yourself, feel free to click on this link and listen to it at your convenience. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/janice-marie-wilson/2010/01/25/the-janice-marie-wilson-show

~~The next Release Technique Workshop called the Abundance 101 Course will be June 4, 5, and 6- mark your calendars. Check out www.releasetechnique.com for further information.

♥♥♥ “Watch out for the Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing!” ♥♥♥

I teach in my workshops that every decision we make takes us to love or away from love. I was asked in my interview with Janice Marie Wilson, how do you know if the decision you make is loving or not? First of all, that negative ego /mind can be tricky sometimes. A real wolf in sheep’s clothing! Have you ever thought you are making a loving decision to only have it blow up in your face? What went wrong? Wasn’t I coming from love? How do I avoid that reaction? First of all, you need to check why you decided to do what you did. Is there any lack of control involved, lack of approval involved, or lack or feeling safe involved? Let me give you an example with a loving solution.

Imagine you have a loved one that is not making great choices in their lives. ( I am sure everyone has experienced this! ) This person has not asked for your help, however, you are frustrated and you have decided to tell them just what you think they need to do. Of course, you think this is a loving act—or is it? Is that decision taking you to love or away from love? Let’s do a check. Close your eyes and spend a moment just pouring love on that decision- some more and some more. What happens to that decision- as you are loving it? Was unsettling? Then did it disappear or did it get stronger? Now get honest with yourself, were you making that decision because you lacked control and wanted to control that person? Those are all non-loving and “got to be right” feelings which will take you away from love and you both lose. As you can see, no good will come from that action- now what? Try this- decide to love and accept them and let them know you are there for them. Now love that decision. Does the feeling expand and become more peaceful? Now you are going toward love and everyone wins. Because when it comes down to it- “Everyone is going to do what they are going to do and not do what they are not going to do.” So do the loving thing for everyone- do the love test on your decisions, if you are not sure. Expose the ego/wolf unloving decisions for what they are and sleep well counting all the sheep/loving decisions you have made in your life.

❥ February Joyful Tip

I love the month of February. Love is in the air! It is the time of the year that people express to each other how they really feel. They do it with words like ”I love You”, giving gifts of hearts, special nights out, and all to name a few. It is wonderful time to share your heartfelt feelings. Can I suggest you do something a little bit different this year for this month’s Joyful Tip, along with all those kind and loving acts, remember to give yourself the gift of love, too. Yes, love yourself just because it might just be what you are missing to make that special planned Valentine event be all it can be. What I mean is to be kind to yourself AND your loved one. Don’t get caught in the trap of over doing it because you want someone to love you. Instead, love yourself, trust yourself, care about yourself, in return, the other person will feel that you have something to give to them -abundant love. Let “Your cup runneth over.” Everyone benefits from your full love cup! If you do not have anyone special in your life- that is OK, too, Spend Valentine’‘s Day saying you love yourself all day- do something special just for you.There is a fabulous book that was released last fall by Larry Crane called, “Love Yourself and Let the Other Person Have it Your Way.” I believe you can go on Amazon and purchase it. It is easy to read with a powerful life changing message. Do you want to have the best Valentine’s Day ever? Read the book and implement the loving concepts. “Be the Love” and have the best Valentine’s Day possible.

❥ Remember “Love for Peace in your Life and in our World!”

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

www.vickikallman.com

Joyous and Healthy New Year to You All!

I trust you all had a wonderful holiday. I certainly did. Fast, Furious, and Fun! It was a joyous time with my friends and family. Like you all, my life is just getting back to normal. This month I am working with my webmaster, Dana, to have my website, Joyful Zen, up and running by the end of this month which is quite exciting!

❥ Joyful Reminders
~~I will be on Janice Marie Wilson’s Blog Talk Radio Show again on January 25- it. Feel free to call in. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/janice-marie-wilson/2010/01/25/the-janice-marie-wilson-show

~~The next Release Technique Workshop called the Abundance Course will be June 4, 5, and 6- mark your calendars. Check out www.releasetechnique.com for further information.

♥♥♥ 2010- The Year of In-ten-tions ♥♥♥

Yes- Let 2010 be the year you reach your goals and dreams by using the power of intentions! I believe intentions will support you in building the basic foundation you must have to reach any goal or dream. Without intentions- attaining any goal is nearly impossible. Intentions help you to get energetically ready for your goal. Did you know you have to be an energetic or vibrational match for your goals, in order for you to accomplish them? So, if you have not reached a goal you set last year, maybe you were not in harmony with that desire.

This year when you set a goal - ask yourself what is it that you must “be” in order to accomplish that goal or dream! Hold off asking yourself what you must do or have to achieve the goal. You can do that later. Like I mentioned before, an intention foundation will help you pave a path to your goal or dream. Intentions allow you to bravely proclaim to the world what you will need “to be” in order to be in harmony with your goal. It is kind of like saying, “What are YOU bringing to the party, in order to be in alignment with the goal?!” HA! I truly believe - “You must first “BE” to DO and HAVE”. Setting your “to be” intentions will aid you to fast track your way to your desire.

❥ January Joyful Tip

After making a goal, try this for 30 days and let me know how it works for you. First, write out what you need “to be” in order to reach your goal or dream. Secondly, once you have completed that task, proclaim your “to be” intention each day before you get out of bed, while in the shower, or in front of the mirror every morning. Then announce your goal. Feel yourself being empowered by those intentions and becoming congruent with your goals.
(If you are not sure this would work for you- then say your goal statement without the intentions and then with them and see for yourself! Can you feel the difference?)

Statement Examples:
If your goal is to have more loving relationships then your intention might look
like this: “My intention today is TO BE ~ accepting, understanding, forgiving,
and loving to myself and others.” & “I allow myself to have more loving
relationships in my life now.”

If your goal is to be 10 pounds lighter then your intention might look like this:
“My intention is TO BE~ happy, healthy, loving to myself, understanding,
forgiving, committed, and courageous. & “I allow myself to be a healthy ten pounds
lighter.”

If your goal is to have more money then your intention might look like this:
“My intention is TO BE~ creative, open to receive all the good I desire, a
great communicator, prosperous, and loving to myself and others.”& I allow
myself to easily and effortlessly receive $5,000 or more in my life now.”

It is a new year and a new decade- isn’t it time for you to soar! Set those “To Be” intentions with your goals and enjoy the flight!

❥ Remember “Love for Peace in your Life and in our World!”

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

Aloha and Mele Kalikimaka (Merry Christmas in Hawaiian),

Like many of you -I have had a busy November. I have also had a wonderful time this month connecting with my friends and family. I met so many like-minded people at Larry Crane’s release technique course, Abundance 101 which was simply amazing. If you missed the course this time- save your $$ - rumor has it they will be teaching another Abundance Course in June 2010. I have been using the release techniques for hours every day and my life is unfolding just beautifully with an abundance of synchronicity and joy.

We had a great turn out for the Joy Love Club meeting on Nov 3rd. I hope to have another one in January.

❥Joyful Reminders

❥ Here is my interview on Janice Marie’s Morning Blog Radio show for those of you that missed the live airing of the show. Click on the link and go to “Episodes on Demand” and find mine on November 9. Thank you Janice Marie for that opportunity.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Janice-Marie-Wilson/2009/11/09/BEAT-THE-MONDAY-MORNING-BLUES-WITH-JANICE-MARIE-WILSON

♥♥♥ It is the Season to Connect for Joy ♥♥♥

Since I was little- I was told that the Christmas Season was the time for JOY! When I was a child and I felt the joy of my family gathered around our Christmas tree Christmas morning opening presents. Yes, the presents gave me joy, however, that joy seemed to be fleeting after a few hours. However, that time I spent at Christmas time connecting joyously with my family I have never forgotten. Now that I have grown children of my own and have a few grand kids- I really love the holidays because family gets together and we get to share the gift of connecting and we have the opportunity to experience the JOY that can go along with being together.

If many of you this year feel you must simplify Christmas- please do not think you are going to have a bleak Christmas. Turn it around - spend time together- go out and load up the family car take your family to see all the Christmas lights in your neighborhood. Buy some construction paper, string, glue, and glitter as a family sit around one evening and make special Christmas ornaments or cards. Bake cookies and decorate them. What memories do you have about Christmases past - did the wrapped gifts give you lasting joy or was it connecting and “being” with your family that gave you your joy? When we are joyfully connecting, we all are feeling loved and are giving love. Isn’t love the best gift to give and receive?

We simplified Christmas last year and it worked so well, we are doing it again this year. We did so many heart-felt things together- we built a ginger bread house, made homemade cookies and goodies, we all ate dinners together and played games after dinner. We also did a family picture with all the extended family. My daughter shared with me - that it was the first Christmas she could remember that was so stress-free. I have to agree with her - less stress and more love and joy. A wise friend of mind once said - “We make our memories.” I would like to add to that - “We also make our joy.” Be “the heart-felt present” this year-be present-connect with your friends and family this holiday and give the gift that keeps on giving- JOY! Just Only You! -which is always enough and will be joyfully accepted and remembered.

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✦✦✦ December’s Joyful Tip

I am only giving you one “Joyful Tip” this month because you can use it at home and at work. When you feel stressed this holiday season - remember my holiday mantra and repeat it over and over again until you believe it and feel better. “I am too Blessed to be Stressed.” “I am too Blessed to be Stressed.” Count your blessing and be in gratitude- get real with your life- be enough- we always have a lot of blessings in our lives- let the stress go and uncover the Joy of the holidays.

❥ Remember “Love for Peace in your Life and in our World!”

Happy Holidays!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

❥❥❥ From the Desk of Joyologist - Vicki Kallman

Aloha Readers,

Here it is November already. I had a very busy October with my Joy-Up Your Life Workshops. I had a wonderful time presenting them. I hope my participants received as much joy as I did from the workshops. In January or February, I will be presenting a half-day Joy-Up Your Life workshop. Next time it will be on a Saturday with the hopes that more people will be able to make it.

❥Joyful Reminders

❥ Larry Crane’s new book, “Love Yourself and Let the Other Person Have it Your Way”,
is a wonderful gift idea. You can find it on Amazon.

❥ Tune in and listen to my interview on releasing those “non-loving” feelings and uncovering the joy on the “BEAT THE MONDAY MORNING BLUES WITH JANICE MARIE WILSON” blog radio show next Monday, November 9th at 9AM PST. Just go online to the link below. Feel free to call in. 1-646-652-4558. If you miss the live show, just go to the link and click “On Demand Episodes”. You will find the interview there.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Janice-Marie-Wilson/2009/11/09/BEAT-THE-MONDAY-MORNING-BLUES-WITH-JANICE-MARIE-WILSON

❥ Also on Nov. 13, 14, and 15 -(Friday night- all day Saturday and Sunday) there will be an “Abundance 101 Course” right here in Las Vegas. This is the course that helped me let go of my unloving feelings and embrace who I am with clarity and peace. It has supported me in creating a lot of momentum in my life. Why am I doing this- releasing is a simply way to experience greater joy and success in everyone’s life. Go to the website and put in the code vegas09 for $100 off the price.

Check out www.releasetechnique.com - Do it for you!

♥♥♥ Happiness is Just a Decision Away ♥♥♥

What would you say if I told you that - To be happy is a decision you can make right now and be happy no matter what? Would your first response be- Could it really be that simple? My answer is yes -it can be that simple. Maybe not so easy but simple.

We make hundreds of decisions all day- when to get up in the morning- what to eat- what route to take to work- when to mail a bill, to name a few. When we are making these decisions, we are choosing to do these items and for the most part no one is making those decisions for us. Right? So why can’t we get up in the morning and say to ourselves- I am deciding to be happy today no matter what. Remember in my July newsletter - I mentioned setting your intention to love yourself and others every day. I had you put your loving intention on the top of your to-do list so now just add one more item to your to-do list “be happy today” along side that intention. Remember no one or thing can make you happy- it is up to you. It will be your decision to be happy and smile! With that in mind let me share an experience I had last month.

Last month in Toastmasters, I competed in a Division level Speech contest representing my area. In the past when I have competed, I usually experienced a roller coaster ride of emotions before, during, and after. I was normally wiped out after I competed. This time I made the decision to be happy before, during, and after the contest. And I let go of any non-loving emotions that were to the contrary. When the day arrived, I even added “loving the experience” to my being happy. Wow, I was able to maintain that feeling - no roller coaster ride this time and I was full of energy after the contest. I did not wait for the results of the competition to be happy. I came in third place and easily embraced my third place win. I was not upset I did not come in first place- however, I was happy for myself and everyone that had competed. I walked away from the contest feeling great. My happiness did not depend on my winning. What a freeing experience! In the past, I have not been that happy about competing because of that emotional roller coaster ride- and would tell myself never again. Now -I am telling myself- sure why not!

With holidays just around the corner- make the decision today to be happy every day through out the holiday season. You know it is the season of JOY- give yourself the choice to enjoy it!
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***November’s Joyful Tip

During the days leading up to Thanksgiving or Christmas, we can become overwhelmed with all that we feel that needs to be done. Make a list of the things that normally overwhelm you this time of year. Now see if you can do things a little different. For instance- If you are the one that always has the big dinner at your home, then ask for help with preparing the food. Make it a potluck or have someone else cook it and bring it over. Or even choose to go out to dinner and then return back to your home for dessert- this way you can still have that home-cooked holiday feeling and family time. Ask for help and suggestions from the other people involved. This will give them a chance to be part of the big day, too - other then just setting down to the meal you have prepared. Being open to do things differently and asking for support might be the two biggest things you can do for yourself, that is, after you have decided to be happy everyday throughout the holiday season. Try it, you might just-Enjoy It!

***November’s Joyful Tip for the Work Place

The season of giving is nearly upon us. Everyone at your workplace is probably feeling the pressure of the economy right now. You might be experiencing some down sizing or lay offs. Fear might be the only emotion you and your co-workers are experiencing at work right now. Along with the other Joyful Tips I have shared with you in my earlier newsletters, step into courageousness and be the beacon of happiness at your job. First decide to be happy, then at the bottom of every email you send out to your co-workers add a “happy” quote. Change the quote everyday. See if you notice more smiles on your co-workers faces. You can start with this one.

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”
Chinese Proverb

Here is a website I discovered with many ideal “happy” quotes- don’t be afraid to create a few of your own. www.inspirational-quotes-and-quotations.com/happy-life-quotes.html

❥ Remember “Love for Peace in your life and in our world!”

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

www.vickikallman.com

❥❥❥ From the Desk of Joyologist - Vicki Kallman

Aloha Readers,

I would like to again thank all of you who have shared your stories with me of using the Joyful Tips from these newsletters. It warms my heart to hear that the Tips are helping many of you to have more happiness and joy.

❥Joyful Reminders

❥ The time is almost here. My “Joy–Up Your Life” Workshops will be every Wednesday night in October. October 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th from 7 to 8:30 PM at the Place for Miracles Church at 2160 West Charleston Suite C, Las Vegas, NV 89102 (The same parking lot as the Omelet House). No need to attend all of the workshops to get a great benefit. As the 1965, Jackie DeShannon song proclaims- “What the world needs now is Love Sweet Love!” So everyone can benefit from these workshops. Come and bring a friend or two! Cost -$10 a workshop. Please RSVP to me by email– vicki@vickikallman.com - seating is limited.

❥ Also on Nov. 13, 14, and 15 -( Friday night- all day Saturday and Sunday) there will be an “Abundance 101 Course” right here in Las Vegas. This is the course that helped me to let go of my unloving feelings and embrace who I am with clarity and peace. It has supported me in creating a lot of momentum in my life. I have negotiated a special low group price for anyone who signs up with me and pays for the class by October 30. Please call or contact me by email for the details- -the more people that sign up through me, the lower the price for all. Why am I doing this- releasing is a simply way to experience greater joy and success in everyone’s life.

Check out www.releasingtechnique.com - then contact me. Do it for you!

♥♥♥ Love is Listening with Your Heart ♥♥♥

Last month I talked about choosing the attitude of gratitude, acceptance, and understanding to help you to have more love in your life. This month I would like to add one more element to this mix bag of goodies. Listening with your Heart. Yes, listening with your heart is a key element in giving and receiving love and feeling that we are lovable. It has been said, God gave us two ears and one mouth and one heart for a reason. I believe he gave us these so we can love fully! When we are using our mouths, we can send out love to others by speaking loving words. God also gave us two ears which acts as the receivers of those loving words. Our ears are one of the ways we receive love- transmit that loving information to our hearts which are our feelings and love centers. In turn, at that point, we remember the truth of who we are- whole perfect and complete and lovable!

Listening with our hearts allows the giver and receiver to feel the love. I know of all of you have experienced that love exchange at least one time in your life. When we are listening with our hearts - there is no need for judgement or trying to fix or control anyone. Listening with your heart will support your ability to accept and understand where the other person is coming from. When you do that, they will feel the love and you will be at peace giving it. Let the circle of love flow! Next time a friend or family member comes up to you to share something important with you- be quiet- open up your heart and just listen and see what happens. I am sure you both will simply love it!

***October’s Joyful Tip

Play the *”Wouldn’t it be wonderful if….. Game” with your friends and your family. This game will support everyone in opening up their hearts to listen to what is possible in their own lives. It also puts all that negative mind clatter on the shelf for a while.
Here is how you play- turn off the TV- computer or anything that is distracting. Playing this game after a meal is a fun, bonding event. You will be surprised on what is shared. When our hearts are open, our hearts’ desires will come to the surface. Listening to everyone’s respective shares will help activate your own truth and desires. Joy- Joy- Joy!
Rules of play-
—Everyone takes a turn sharing their “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…. ( something you would like to have happen to you or a love one- keep it positive) i.e. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…..I was able to have a new red Mustang convertible or a vacation in Hawaii.
—No one is allowed to comment negatively on the other person’s share.
—Play it as long as you wish- The more often you play the easier it will be to share what you would like to have or do or be.

***October’s Joyful Tip for the Work Place

Play another version of the “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…” Game on the way to work or when you first get to work. This game will help you set your intentions for the day. Here are the two ways you can play it. First way- on your way to work- say out loud, for example -Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…..traffic just flowed quickly to work today and I got to work 5 minutes early so I could sit and have a peaceful cup of coffee before I get started. Continue until you went over all the things you would like to happen for you that day. Another way is to get to work a few minutes early and write on the top of a piece of paper- Wouldn’t it be wonderful if…Then make a list of things you would like to happen that day. Like Wouldn’t it be wonderful if… my meeting with my first client ended in a sale. Continue until you have covered your complete to-do list. Take that extra few minutes to set your high vibrating intentions for the day by playing that game- let me know how it goes?

❥ Remember “Love for Peace” in your life and in our world!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki

www.vickikallman.com

Vicki is a “Joyologist” that loves to speak on here favorite subjects - JOY and LOVE. Her life’s passion is to guide one to greater JOY and SUCCESS. And she also does this with her “Joy” coaching and workshops. Want to learn more-Contact Vicki at Vicki@vickikallman.com

* The idea for this game comes from the book, Ask and it is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks.

I would like to share an experience I had yesterday at the Monterey Airport. I arrived at the airport in a very beautiful peaceful place. My mind was quiet and at peace. I was well into being imperturbable. I had just spent a week in Monterey, CA at a release retreat presented by a gentleman named Larry Crane. I spent the week letting go of emotional ego-based junk in my mind through an easy and simple technique. After the retreat, I was going home and was at the airport with a fellow retreat participant named John. While going through security we saw there we two machines where our items were scanned but only one when machine for the passengers to screened. Needless to say, the line for everyone to pass through became bottlenecked. There was some pushing and shoving from several people. Meanwhile John and I just stood there in line being very peaceful just waiting for things to clear. The female Security guard was getting frustrated and kept demanding- “For everyone to stay behind the line”, in a very loud gruff voice. Her demeanor was quiet Gestapo-like. Once the passenger passed through she continued to give them a hard time. Then it was my turn I walked through and handed her my boarding pass and she looked it looked up and me and smiled and said “Thank You Vicki” I said you are welcome and went to retrieve my things. John walked through and she said” thank you John” to him and then continued with the next person in line and she did not seem to be as angry. John and I both laughed as we saw what happened. In fact a friend of his from Monterey who happened to be on our same flight and was not part of the retreat-who went through before us said the gal said nothing nice to her. This really made us laugh.

It just proved to me – that when I am at peace I have the ability to pass it on to a complete stranger and change their response to the world. My conclusion is that Peace begets Peace. If a large number of people became peaceful- then through the theory of the “tipping point” we could have peace in the world and we all could live as one- just like the song, Imagine, by the Beatles.

If you would like to learn more about the “release technique” and the courses that are available- go to www.releasetechnique.com . Check it out for yourself.

In Love and In Joy,
Vicki

Love for Peace in Ourselves and in our World

From the Desk of Joyologist - Vicki Kallman

Aloha Readers,

I have heard back from many of my readers and they are saying they are using the Joyful Tips of the month and are experiencing more joy and love in their lives. That warms my heart. Even my husband has been reading my joyful tips. Unexpectedly, one morning last week he brought me a lovely cup of coffee while I was getting ready for the day! HA! And you know, it really did set a loving tone for the rest of my day. Remember– Love is the Answer!

Joyful Reminder — my “Joy–Up Your Life” Workshops will be every Wednesday night in October. October 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th from 7 to 8:30 PM at the Place for Miracles Church at 2160 West Charleston Suite C, Las Vegas, NV 89102 (The same parking lot as the Omelet House) No need to attend all of the workshops to get a great benefit. As the 1965, Jackie DeShannon song proclaims- “What the world needs now is Love Sweet Love!” So everyone can benefit from these workshops. Come and bring a friend or two! Cost -$10 a workshop. Please RSVP to me by email– vicki@vickikallman.com - seating is limited.

Love is an Attitude of Gratitude, Acceptance, and Understanding.

Love is also an attitude of gratitude, acceptance, and understanding. Choosing to have these attitudes will guarantee you more love and joy throughout your day. All of these attitudes come from our Beingness– who we really are- Love. These 3 attitudes feed our soul and spirit. When our souls are fed by these loving attitudes, we are taking those around us and ourselves closer to love.

Think about it for a moment. When you are in gratitude for someone or something- how do you feel? How do you feel when you stop trying to change something or someone and you just accept it all? Now, how do you feel when you feel that someone understands what you are saying and he or she tells you so? Or you understand someone else’s side of an issue without any need for judgment? When I am choosing these 3 loving attitudes – I get filled up with joy and peace and brings me closer to love. Thus my life becomes so easy and it just flows.

When we are in the attitude that you are wrong and I am right- where does that take us? When we want to change our loved ones and want to control their every choice, what place does that take that person and us? Now what if we refuse to understand the other side of an argument. Where does that take us? Those attitudes take us away from love and who we really are. That is why one does not fill up with love and peace with those attitudes. Those attitudes are run by our egos. The ego always takes us further away from lasting love and joy. We might get a fleeting feeling of what we think is love and joy- but it cannot last. Don’t take my word for it. Think back to a situation when you were in one of the “got to be right” attitudes- it really became a hollow victory- didn’t it? This not a judgment exercise- this is just an awareness exercise. If we become aware of the unproductive value of these ego attitudes, then we can change them.

****September Joyful Tips

This month give the gift of love through the attitudes of gratitude, acceptance, and understanding. Do this by first choosing the attitude of gratitude for everything in your day. Be grateful! Secondly, choose to accept people and situations instead of trying to change them. It takes less effort to accept then to change. Someone once said to me, “Let go of trying to change someone, so they can do what you want them to do.” Lastly, be more understanding- drop your judgment and listen more often instead of talking. Really hear what the other person is saying. It takes less energy to listen than to talk. Let go your ego attitudes and embrace the loving attitudes and watch your life have more meaning and peace.

****September’s Joyful Tips for the Work Place
At work, when you make your to-do list, arrange the items to be accomplished in a less resistant order. That is put them in an order that creates a more joyful flow to your workday. Have the first item on your list be something you like to do or want to do. Like, for instance, call your favorite client and see if they need anything. For the second item on your list, put down an item that you have a little resistance on- for example- checking in with a disagreeable co-worker who is working with you on a project. Then for item 3, go back to doing something you like to do or have no resistance on completing. Item 4 again will be something you resist doing. By alternating agreeable and easier tasks with disagreeable and more resistant tasks throughout your workday will give you more energy and allow you to experience more peace and joy at work.

Remember “Love for Peace” in your life and in our world!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki
www.vickikallman.com
To Enjoy Vicki’s Free Book- “It Begins With You” 7 Simple Secrets to Your Family’s Joy go to http://www.vickikallman.com/blog/category/vickis-book-in-order/

Vicki is a “Joyologist” that loves to speak on here favorite subjects - JOY and LOVE. Her life’s passion is to guide one to greater JOY and SUCCESS. And she also does this with her “Joy” coaching and workshops. Want to learn more-Contact Vicki at Vicki@vickikallman.com

If you want to learn more about emotional releasing go to www.releasetechnique.com . The next live seminar in Las Vegas will be in November. Contact me if you are interested in attending.

“Joy-Up your Life” Workshops

These are interesting times we all are facing today. There are now so many negative, unproductive emotions that are floating around. How do you deal with it? Learn how powerful love is in dealing with all of this. Come and walk away with a “SOS Kit” of tools to help you thrive in these uncertain times and have JOY put back into your life.

Joy-Up Your Life Workshop Testimony
This was a gift and a blessing. Thank You! Keep up with the good loving! P.H. of Las Vegas

Dates: October 7th, 14th, 21st, and 28th
Time: 7PM to 8:30 PM
Where: Place for Miracles Church
2160 West Charleston Blvd, Suite C
Cost: $10 per workshop
Bring a friend or two!

RSVP to Vicki – Vicki@vickikallman.com. Seating is limited.

From the Desk of Joyologist - Vicki Kallman

In last month’s newsletter I gave you two Joyful tips. I have received a lot of positive stories on the results of using those tips. Keep on loving!

Since my last newsletter, I gave my first “Joy-Up Your Life” Workshop. I had a joyous time. I am looking forward to presenting all four workshops in that series on October 7th , 14th , 21st, and 28th at 7 – 8:30PM at the Place for Miracles Church at 2160 West Charleston, Suite C , Las Vegas NV 89102 (The same parking lot as the Omelet House)
Cost $10 a workshop.

I have also started a group called “The Joy Love Club” on Facebook– the tag line for the group is “Love for Peace”. I hope you join in on the fun!

Remember love is the answer. I believe we are all either going towards love in our life or walking away from love. My goal with these newsletters is to give you the tools to spend more time in love, so you can experience greater joy and success in your life.

A LOVE DIET

Are you ready to go on a Love Diet?

Here are the benefits to going on this diet:

► The Love Diet is chucked full of approval.
►You get your daily requirements of loving affirmations.
►There is no counting of calories, fat grams, or lowering portion sizes.
(Actually the more love the better!)
►This diet will feed your brain. It will give you clarity and take you toward love in the decisions you make daily.
►The Love Diet will give you more energy without adding caffeine or sugar.
►This diet will relieve stress much longer than a mug of beer or glass of wine.
►You will actually be happier on this diet for it is all about having more not less!
►You will lose the heavy weight of negative thoughts and beliefs.
►You will gain the lighter feelings of confidence, acceptance, courage, happiness, peace, loving, and joy.

Now are you ready to go on a Love Diet?

If the answer is yes- here are a few tips to succeed with your “Love Diet”.

***August’s Joyful Tips
1 Please continue with last month’s Joyful Tips to replace all non-loving thoughts about yourself with “I love you” and every morning set an intention to do everything with love all day, even at work.
2)Please make a list of all the things you love to do that take you toward loving yourself and others. Every day look at your list. Then put doing one or more of those things on the top of your to-do list every day and do them. For example, I love to make coffee in the morning and take a fresh cup of coffee to my love one while he or she is still in bed or getting dressed for work. It does not have to be complicated.

***August’s Joyful Tip for the Work Place

1) Please make a list of all of your wonderful qualities related to work. Every day look at your list. Choose one of your qualities and repeat that quality to yourself at least 20 times a day. Do it more if you are having a tough day. You might find your day gets better when you are holding a positive thought about yourself in your mind instead of the opposite. For example, you might want to say over an over to yourself. “I am a loyal worker.” “I make wonderful decisions.” “I am the best person for this job.” “I treat everyone with respect.” “I can sell ice to an Eskimo.” Do you get the idea? Good! Put those positive recordings in your head and delete all of those old worn out recordings that you are not good enough, just not enough or whatever is playing in your mind. Do this every day for 30 days and see what happens.

Remember “Love for Peace” in your life and in our world!

In Love and In Joy,

Vicki