How you answer these two Life Choice questions will be the difference between a happy relationship and one which is not. It will be the difference between being successful in a job or business or not. It will also be the difference between quitting an addiction or not. Basically, your answers to these questions will make a positive or negative outcome in everything you wish to achieve.
Here the two most powerful Life Choice questions you can ask yourself to create a solid, success foundation in your life.
- What do I want?
- And why?
Yep, these two simple questions can sometimes be the hardest questions to answer. When I coach my clients, these are the first two questions I ask them. Do you know what the number one answer I hear is? “I don’t know.” They want to be coached to success in love, business, or health but they do not know what they want. In contrast, the clients who share with me exactly what they want and why, by the end of their coaching experience, they have achieved it or close to achieving it. The results are really as different as day and night. Understanding the importance of having the answers to these two questions, is the first step to creating a strong foundation for success.
Why is it so hard to answer those two questions? I have a theory. First, many of us have had our parents, teachers, friends and/or society tell us not to want early on in our lives. Remember when you wanted that favorite expensive toy for your birthday or Christmas, you told your parents or siblings what you wanted and they answered, That is too expensive – what else do you want that is not so pricey? How did you feel? Maybe you felt guilty for wanting anything. Result -you ended up accepting what you did not want. After many experiences similar to this, you just stop wanting. Why? Because you won’t get it. In conclusion, we stop trusting our inner voices who are telling us what we want and desire. We just turn down the volume and stop listening.
Now if you are unable to know what you want- then you will never get to the reason why you want it. Let’s take for example. You are single and you are telling your friends you want a serious loving relationship. A friend then asks you, what do you want in this relationship? Your mind goes blank. Then your friend asks you- why do you want this relationship? Again, nothing. What do you think your chances are you will be in a serious loving relationship anytime soon? Have you ever had something like this happen to you? You can apply this scenario to any dream or desire you have had. Sadly, many of us are out of practice in knowing what we want and we do not know where to start.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone would start to desire and dream again!?!
I believe everyone understands, at some level, our dreams and desires do not come from “thinking”. Dreams and desires come from our hearts. They are ignited from within. You can feel yourself expand, when you have one of these desires ignite. Anything is possible! You feel connected to the truth of who you are. Here is where your why comes in. It has to be strong enough to continue to fuel your desire when your limiting beliefs or anyone wants to stop you from continuing on. By the way, one of your strongest whys can be – Because I know that I know that I know this why I want to do this! When I have this kind of “intuitive why“, watch out world here I come. This why has always powered me to success. If you don’t have a powerful why- your foundation for success will easily crumble.
Let’s build a strong foundation for your future successes. Here are a few steps you can take everyday to strengthen your “desire and why” muscles again, so you can begin to trust and listen to your heart and follow your truth to love and success. It may feel a little strange in the beginning because those muscles might have atrophied a bit.
- Take at least 10-15 minutes in the morning and ask yourself, What do I want today? Take the time to visualize it.
- Then ask yourself, WHY? Then get quiet and listen to your answer. Do it over and over again until you feel yourself expand to feel anything is possible.
- If you feel an emotional block or obstacle show up- feel it and then give it to love.
- End your “desire and why” session with gratitude for allowing your desire to be fueled by your empowering why to success!
When you go through this process you might discover, you really do not want what you thought you wanted or your why did not give you the power you needed to stay motivated. It is OK. It might not be the right time for you to take on this task or you might have uncovered a want or dream which is in more alignment with you at this time. Be patient.
Please keep asking these two Life Choice questions. Build your success foundation with what you want, launch your dreams and desires by having a strong why and land amongst the stars of success! Enjoy the ride!
Remember, there is no true success without joy.